I’ve said it before: there is an odd attraction between Aspies and grammar. Very few other folks really give such credence to the use of well versus good, the placement of a preposition, to an irregular plural, or to the correct indication of an appositive (heck, most folks probably don’t even remember what an appositive IS!). And like I’ve written, there are probably lots of reasons for why grammar matters so much to so many of us.
I guess like so many other “has-to-be-correct” life rules, grammar helps those of us on the spectrum make sense of a confusing, chaotic world. It gives predictable, translatable form and function to vague expression. Even those of us who are “really good with words” often find actual person-to-person communication to be incredibly tricky, and even heartbreaking.
Clear, reliable grammar helps keep us afloat in the rapid, spontaneous current of conversations, emails, texts, and phone calls….what seem like casual conversations are often like vain attempts to catch running water in our hands…everything goes so fast that we simply can’t keep up.
And though grammatical rules are meant to be universal (per language), when we insist upon them (for our own protection!), what often comes across is self-righteous, academic arrogance — rather than absolute need for the only verbal roadmap we carry.
But today we’re not talking about the crazy distraction of a misplaced apostrophe.
Today, I’m here to teach you how grammar and the human heart are inextricably linked.